Couples Therapy

Couples therapy involves a deeper process that explores the roots of partners’ current problems with the intent of resolving dysfunctional patterns of interaction. Often it has to undo the emotional damage that partners have inflicted on each other. Typically, it helps individual partners understand themselves and their own needs so they know how to ask the other for what they want and know how to support their partner well.  I use the tools of Nonviolent Communication to increase understanding and empathy, as well as tools from The Gottman Method, attachment theory and family systems theory. 

I teach NVC skills in my couples therapy work to bring greater vulnerability and emotional safety to honest communication. We think we have to choose between being honest or being kind, but there are ways to communicate with more vulnerability and care. I want to teach couples how to share in a way that is both honest and kind so that people are able to be authentic and connected in their relationships.